Tuesday, December 29, 2015

i will outgrew this...i will

one day i'm gonna know how to deal with this and outgrew it....
one day i'm gonna be just fine...
maybe in future there is so much more of this i need to face...
maybe this is the best practice i need to go through...
God knows what i need....and i need this...so yeah...
one day i'll be fine with all of these kind of madness...
i will...
i will.

Sunday, December 27, 2015

2016's coming

so 2016's coming....

back up a lil bit...what were you doing in 2006 and what have you thought about 2016 back then?

i never thought i'm here...i never know i'll be here...

such a long way gone and such a long way to come...

what will happen in 2026?

so..just keep going alright?

just keep going...
because; 

"Nobody knows where they might end up, nobody knows" -Grey.A-

Saturday, December 26, 2015

collecting pieces....

how to collect pieces?
am i not facing this before?
why i don't know how to anymore?
why the road seems to get darker and darker?

collect your pieces together sumy...you can do this...yes you can...
it's just a failure...you can get over it...then you shall do better...okay?

Friday, December 25, 2015

How to live everyday facing your failure?

How to live everyday...facing the failure that you cant do anything about it...

Read that for 3 times...

You are too tired physically, mentally and your entire soul is telling you...you cant do this...
How to live like that and still can tell people all around you that you're okay? And still can work hard for the next day?

Everyday needs endless fight that is getting bigger and bigger...

Im so tired of unfair life...well who i am to say its unfair...God knows alright...God knows whats best for me...and for now this is it...

Im too tired to be positive cheering people up and be such a homey place for them but i ended up burried myself in the ground...

Im starting to lose faith...but who am i to say i have faith before...i might not have enough thts why now tht i need to have one...

I miss home...i miss myself...i miss success...havent been there forawhile now and i feel lonely without it...thts the only thing i can count on...but it seems i cant count on myself anymore...

Will God listen if i pray? Or am i too far from it already...can i make it for my next exam...it needs lots of me and im kinda running out right now...

This failure is too deep to keep going...im just really really sucks and stucks this sem...

Whom to blame? Yeah myself of course and thts just sucks....

Thursday, December 24, 2015

the only reason why God slap you in the face

the only reason why God needs to slap you in the face once in a while is because you need it.
the only reason life needs to throw bricks at you is because they want you to stop for a minute and think.
the only reason why world needs to fall apart is because you need to change.

because it has been long since the last time you feel the drive to do better.
you need this, there is no one to blame but yourself, do better.

it's okay.
you need this.

other people? owh their time will come alright...you're not God to wish things upon them.
just work you part and do better. Let people live theirs. No one need to feel bad for your own screwed up. And you have no business to judge theirs. Just work your part.

Sunday, December 20, 2015

what will happen after graduation?

what will happen to us after graduation?
will we all be the same or we'll not contacting each other anymore?
i hate acute relationship...i hate to know that one day all of these beautiful moments
will go to waste and just get flushed away...
can we make it to be friends forever?
why i have so little faith in this friendships we have...
is it because i'm too different from them?
or is it because we never actually talk when we get home...
because all we want sometime is just to end this and get off each other asap...am i right?
later...we all will be married...have families to take care of...and one day...we gonna meet each other and say...omg, it has been 10 years since last time i see you...am i right?
God..i hate this...fading relationship...they say as you grew up...you lost some people in your life...
i don't like it..that theory...i hate it...

Friday, December 18, 2015

UNLUCKY

i feel like i'm not lucky with people....
i'm not what people want...
i'm not fun...outgoing or best company on earth...
i'm like...buzzkiller most of the time...
i can't help but to have this deep deep deep unhappy personality..
i can't quite to shake it off...ever...
so...when people are looking for fun...it's not from me...
but when they have dark time or bad day...there, there is my place...
because i have been through worse...so they might think i have good words to say...
or made a better worse case scenario to make them feel better...

i'm really sick of my stupid life...
i'm so ungrateful now...i don't know how much i can be thankful for having nothing...
yeah...there i put it that way...i have nothing...that bad the way i see my life...really...
God will read this and will of course punish me for it..sure

Goshhh how to live like this? absolute insufficient of everything...
from inside out...
i have no spirits, no motivation, no money and absolutely no knowledge for now...
people are so happy if they get better life than me...but how little they know they already are better...
they don't even need to try...

Saturday, December 12, 2015

i wonder

i wonder how i'm gonna study without all these worries....
i wonder how that kinda night is...
i wonder how if i'm fully scholarship and having sufficient of everything...
i wonder how my result is by then...
will i be this demotivated?
will i be this hopeless and giving up?
i don't know how long am i gonna be able to stay here...
i don't know if i'm gonna be able to finish and grads like i always dream of...
i wonder....

i think i know my diagnosis....

i think i know why....
since the starting of the semester...
i owe so much...
i guilt a lot and i'm worried...

Owing, Guilt And Worry

3 worst things that are absolutely not healthy for a student....
Student needs to study in a calm and happy environment...
how to thrive with guilt and worries?

no can't do...

and i'm gonna fail in so many levels if i don't manage this things...

i just really can't wait to grads and leave this hell of living behind...
i have never been in so much pain before...
painful to survive and live my normal life...because i don't deserve any of it...

this dream of mine is toxic and has killing every single joy of me and my mum...
this is totally toxic...
and i don't know how to become a doctor one day knowing that i'm gonna blame this all on myself
and to totally throw away my 8 years of life just like that...

i don't know how this journey's gonna end...
will i be happy then?
or will i feel even more guilty?
FML...
really...
no prayers could help...
no good deeds could repair this toxic dream...
no happiness in future can pull me out of this...

I dont know what happen to me this sem

I dont know what happen to me this sem...
I see people get better and better but me?
Worsen and worsennn
My God...i see those who asking me question before are teaching me and those who has no clues are presenting...
Not that i dont know...that people cant be not know forever and people change...its good for them...im glad...but here im telling bout myself...i get worse and worse...my timeline screwed like hell and now here i am 1 week from exam and havent done any thing good for it...God...what happen to me? Why am i being like this?
Why am i so lazy and dont wanna try?
Have i been thinking tht im smart already? Thts why i dont try much? What a jerk thinking thr way sumy...
My God...when am i gonna wake up from this scary lifestyle and dream?
God...i think im too proud...too proud to try harder...please God...please...

Wednesday, December 09, 2015

Tuesday, December 08, 2015

what's the story of this place?

when i finally grads from here...what's the story of this place?
what will i remember? what will be the featured?

am i gonna tell people this place is warm and happiest moment of my life?
or am i gonna say this is the worst 6 years of my life?
or am i just gonna say...there are bitter and there are sweets?

for now all i can say is...this is not the easiest thing i have encountered so far in my life...
the studying, the people, the financial and the emotional that's going on...
my God...i'm trying to survive everyday...like...there is no day that's easy...

and there are more years to come....
Give me strength God...give me some...

Friday, December 04, 2015

Everything is so hard when you're worried...

everything has been so hard when i'm in worries....
i can't think...
i can't function...
i can't do anything right...

things that i'm holding keep falling apart when i'm worried...
like a giant tumor pressing against my brain telling my neuron to stop firing....

God...why am i worrying so much? i'm stressed...i can't function properly...
i need to plan...make a good plan...and i can't do it with these worries up my mind...
God...it's so stressful that i can't work properly...

Everything feels so cloudy and messy...Goshhh

I just wish i can dissect it down to a better view and go from there...but it's just so freaking hard...
My brain can't think anymore...and it sucks that way because all i love doing is thinking...
I hate it when i can't think properly...

Thursday, December 03, 2015

at ease

at ease sumy at ease...
don't go panic...don't go insecure...don't go insane...
stay put...at ease...

where are you sumy?

where are you now?
how far are you from what you want?
how much have you done for it?

my God...give me strength....

Sunday, November 29, 2015

i'm constantly worried and confuse

i'm constantly worried and confused...
i'm constantly scared and weary...
i'm constantly feel the depress and loss of faith....
i'm constantly feel small and helpless...
i'm constantly need and wanting things that i don't meant to want it...

God...please help me...please guide me...please...don't leave me...

Sunday, November 22, 2015

Now

แอบเหงา - เสนา หอย


ทำตัวตามสบาย เหมือนเช่นทุกที
ไม่มีทุกข์ร้อน..อะไร
พอดนตรีบรรเลงเพลงที่คุ้นเคย
เราเองก็ยังร้อง..ไป
ถึงคล้ายๆไม่เป็นไรสักหน่อย
เเต่พอมองดูคนที่เขามีใคร
เเม้ว่าผู้คน จะรายล้อมอยู่ยังเผลอเหงาในใจ

เมื่อไหร่จะมีใครใครสักคนที่เป็นของเรา
เมื่อไหร่จะมีใคร ใครสักคนนะที่รักเรา
เท่านี้..ที่ต้องการ ขอเกินไปตรงไหน
เมื่อไหร่จะมีใคร ใครสักคนที่เคียงข้างเรา
เเค่อยากจะมี คนที่ทำให้ใจไม่ต้องเหงา..
ไม่รู้..ต้องเมื่อไหร่ เหมือนมันยังห่างไกล..

นาฬิกาเวลาเพิ่งจะเที่ยงคืน 
ผู้คนก็มากมาย
พอดนตรีบรรเลงเพลงให้เต้นกัน 
ใครๆเขาก็เต้นไป
ยิ้มเเละทักทายกับคน รู้จัก
เเต่คงไม่มีใครลึกซึ้งใจเรา
ทั้งที่ผู้คนก็รายล้อมอยู่ ยังเผลอนึกเบาๆ 

เมื่อไหร่จะมีใครใครสักคนที่เป็นของเรา
เมื่อไหร่จะมีใคร ใครสักคนนะที่รักเรา
เท่านี้..ที่ต้องการ ขอเกินไปตรงไหน
เมื่อไหร่จะมีใคร ใครสักคนที่เคียงข้างเรา
เเค่อยากจะมี คนที่ทำให้ใจไม่ต้องเหงา..
ไม่รู้..ต้องเมื่อไหร่ เหมือนมันยังห่างไกล..

เมื่อไหร่จะมีใครใครสักคนที่เป็นของเรา
เมื่อไหร่จะมีใคร ใครสักคนนะที่รักเรา
เท่านี้..ที่ต้องการ ขอเกินไปตรงไหน
เมื่อไหร่จะมีใคร ใครสักคนที่เคียงข้างเรา
เเค่อยากจะมี คนที่ทำให้ใจไม่ต้องเหงา..
ไม่รู้..ต้องเมื่อไหร่ เหมือนมันยังห่างไกล..

ไม่รู้..ต้องเมื่อไหร่ เหมือนมันยังห่างไกล...

Monday, November 16, 2015

sins

i never know it's this much sins to be a woman...
i know we are in the era where there is no discrimination and all...but it's in the DNA
that women are different from men and have so much of lacks and flaws in it...

i feel sorry for women...
sorry that we have so much emotions, hormones, and urge to want a guy so bad...
sorry for that women 'are told' or have the mentality that men are everything...that men are the
rule for women to be happy or sad...that their presence determine who we are or how good we should be...

rarely women around me stood up for themselves...want to be pretty for themselves, want to be thin for themselves or want to be intellectual for themselves...
they do it all for men...so that men will find it's ease for their eyes, ease for their life...

rarely women shut men down just to stay with friends but men do that all the time...

rarely women put anything else before their men...

but is that women's fault? i don't think so...

women are coded to be that way...to hopelessly want family and be a mother...

because that's nature...and men are meant to be outside hunting and gaining resources for family...

so it's the nature itself that speaks...

not that women are mean or being selfish to always think about men, and always want to do better for men, but it's their nature to want to create a family for human's survival...if not, the human race would die thousand years ago...we will be extinct if women do not want this...and men are coded to want to stay in a family but not that attach because they're meant to be out there...creating resources and fight...

so, i have come to understand that everything we do in life, no matter what era we are...we will always act as nature's calling...

we wanna grow up, we wanna have families, we wanna have next of kin...

so it's no one's fault that we are acting this way...

it's all written...

there is no point in judging or feeling sorry for those who's in search for it...because i used to feel sorry for this...for women who are so hopelessly rely on men and wanna marry and all...
there are those who throw away their careers, their parents and even their own personality for men and families they built...

"Only with understanding you will find true wisdom"

please do understand sumy...please....

Thursday, November 12, 2015

Sunday, November 08, 2015

Environment



I used to live in a school that people find it's stupid to dwell with feelings and to dream of relationships are ridiculous. Then, here i am at a place where everyone is dreaming of having perfect relationships and all i'm listening to is about relationship issues. So i kinda be in an adaptation for this. How to live in this place where people are talking about "Does he love me?" more than "How are we gonna study for this topic?" 

I find myself so lost in majority...i can't focus on what i want when it's not the same as the majority's...i wish i can, but i can't. And it's not their fault to be so, and it's not my fault to be like this. I can't blame the people around me for my failure to focus. 

But then it hit me, that one wise man used to say, your CGPA will be predicted from the environment you're in. Like, if you're in 3,9 kinda environment, then your CGPA won't be far off, and if you're in 2.5, then your CGPA won't be far off that either. So, as a student, i wish i will be at 3.9 kinda environment, so that i'll be driven to my breaking point trying to catch up. But as a friend, i wanna be with my friends no matter how their CGPA is.

Then, i notice the difference between what people of 3.9 are talking about in their daily life compared to 2.5 students. And it hit me, hit me real hard that i wanna be in that kind of conversation. The conversation of future, of career, of success, compare to of relationships and feelings or make up or hair or dresses. 

I wanna be in that scientific talking and asking questions and searching for answers instead of sighs and tears from relationship failures. 

I miss that environment, even, that kind of environment will create such ignorant, selfish and cut throat kinda world but still, i won't feel so lost am i?

Because right now, i can't manage to put anything else before my education and career...because that will determine my food, my drinks, my life later on. If i'm so lost in the feeling of neediness of a presence of a guy, a perfect guy in my life, to share my dream and my wish, then i will be so tempted to work for it. Which includes try and error in relationship. And this process doesn't take little time or effort. It's as much as doing the study things too. So, i can't manage to lose it right now.

I wanna be focus, and stay true to my goals. But it seems like it's ridiculous to do so here. Only time for that is when exam is coming and by means coming, is the next day... and that's the only time people are talking about books and knowledge. But, how weak i am? Am i that weak to blame it on my environment for my failure or success? How am i suppose to just wait for my environment to get better than only my life will get better? Why the hell i let environment involve so much in my life?

And what i urge for doesn't reflect my outcome. Those people i said to dwell with emotions and all even do better academically compared to mine who want to do just academic all the time. Those people i said to carry away my focus are the one who seems to be able to focus more. 

So, the real problem here is me...i got carry away. I care, i think. i analyze, that consuming my time not theirs. I solved, they happy, they can study, but not me. I'm dwelling with thinking and thoughts.

God, how to get myself out of this mess i created? How to be able to focus when i urge to focus on something else? I'm going down unless i solved this...i'm so going down.

I can't seem to be able to catch up to the level i used to be in anymore. God, i wanna be better. I don't wanna shy over my attitude towards greatness anymore. I wanna be so occupied with studying that i have no time for feelings and emotions. God, i miss being that way. I miss not care so much. I really really miss it.

Fear

have you ever have fear? i bet everyone does...

Will Smith used to say "I use my fear, fear of failure to drive me through"

why my fear doesn't seem to be able to drive me through it?

why fear seems to hold me back...

This fear of failure...this fear of things changing...this fear of losing things, people and moments...

God...how to cure this?

They say cure your fear with faith...but i can't seem to do so...

Why am i so weak? why am i so attach to fear? why am i shaking when i'm suppose to be brave and have faith with my life...but i feel small, i feel scared, i feel like my world is about to go down...

I fear of everything...literally everything...

i'm scared God...i'm scared of everything....

Light

i wanna be someone who is light in her sleep,
light in her eating,
light in her needs,

i wanna be someone who sits there happily to see someone else's happy...

i wanna be light in my needs and heavy on her gratitude towards things that come to her life...

i want to be a human who don't want much, and light on things, anger, lust and greed...

God...help me...guide me through my path...guide me so that i can find myself out there who is at least half of what i want to become...

I want to be good...i want to be glad and thankful...God...please....

Wednesday, November 04, 2015

This is too long

This is too long...
Im wasting my time here...
Wasting money and energy...
When i should be taking care of my mum..
Not busting my ass here and wasting her money and time not to be taken care of...
My God what have i done with my life??
Im regret...regret being too dumb too stupid too ignorant too shallow to think it through before making my decision 3 years ago...
My God...what have i done...
I should be home taking care of her...

it's sad that it's all turned out to be the same...

it's saddened me that all of the people i know turned out to be the same when it comes to relationship...
i don' t want to be like that if i'm in one...but who am i to think i can make it turns out differently...
sure will be the same thing anyway...maybe that's why it's so hard for me to try one...
maybe i'm not ready to lose myself yet...

Friday, October 02, 2015

Stupid heart or stupid brain?

one thing about heart is that..its stupid,...
it feels too deep, it falls too fast and it won't forget...

it's all about our thinking and dependence...

we are so depend on the one we care about to make us happy...

we are so hung up on the fact that with their existence only that we are matter...and the day will be matter...

seriously? where is all our worthy? where is all our own values? to make ourselves happy on our own...

that is why i said...stupid heart...stupid brain...

can't get over the fact that one self is matter and only one self that can make real happiness...

Wednesday, September 30, 2015

After all....

after all...
after all...
after all...
yeah why not...

Toxicity

have you ever been to a place where you stand there alone and you feel the fresh air passing by?

but then come a person stand by your side, and give some energy towards you and the environment...and if it's positive, then you will feel like the environment is still nice, but then if it's negative then you feel like the environment has been polluted...

so you start to have feelings that the air is dirty, smoke and harmful for your lungs...

then comes the suffocation....

so you try your best to stay in that kind of environment...you wear masks...change is from day to day to keep it clean...

but then have you ever run out of 'mask' to wear? like literally 'forgot to go to the store?'

and there you are..sitting and suffocating...

when am i gonna get used to it? when am i gonna get immune to this? when am i gonna let go of the fact that i have to create a better place...not the other people...

i shall stop blaming the surrounding and start getting my own oxygen tank...so that i can survive and stay healthy here...

well readers...sorry for such metaphor...i really don't know how to convey this in a better form...

God, lead me...

Dr House

Before, i was watching house and wanna become a doctor...now i watch it and was asking...what kind of doctor i wanna become...
Will i be a good doctor? Am i approachable? Will i be a safe doctor?
Those are questions i have to seek for...

Monday, September 21, 2015

In the midst of giving up

In the midst of everyone is so giving up on life here...what should i do??
Everyone else is so focusing on their problems that people are actually forgot we come here to study and shall use positive force to cheer each other up...
What to do if no one here is acting like friends to each other anymore...
What to do when all the action came out from each person is all the negative forces...
What to do when the roof we living in are so suffocating and feel like a prison?
What to do if we are so giving up and dont wanna fight this anymore??
Why i feel like this place is getting more and more gloomy by days?
Why i keep on trying to survive at this place when i shouldnt??
Why i keep on getting aura that this place is full of unhappiness??
What happen to me?? Am i the problem? Thinking too much??

Saturday, September 19, 2015

Oh whyyy

Oh why i feel ao empty...
What is this stupid emptiness??
I cant move...i cant focus...i cant breathe....
Oh God why its so empty...
Is all my passions gone??
Do i actually dont want to do this anymore??
Why when we finally get what want...and all we did is throwing it all away??
Phrak eiii chuai che duai...sathukkk

Thursday, September 17, 2015

all i want is...

all i want is just a peace of mind....
all i want is just to know answers that i'm seeking...
all i want is just a little space to have my mind spoken...
all i want is just not to be in competition with the one i care about...

but human...
they tend to fight for their rights...
they tend to be so determine that their needs are more important than us...
they tend to put their needs in the form of cares, of helps, of sweet words...
and make us believe that that's what they actually meant...
but at the end of the day, what they want are actually what they come for...

all i want is just a peace of mind...to be able to trust that those around me
are actually care, are actually think that i matter...

but sadly, what i can i hope from it....

people are what they want...
people are what they need...

and all i need is just a peace of mind that i can trust people around me....

i just want the care i gave...


Sunday, September 13, 2015

just tonight...i miss you

just tonight i miss you...
just tonight i'm gonna imagine you and missing you to the bit!!

owh how long have i been having this little feeling for you that keep on growing as time passed....
i have known you like forever...since we small, since we running around playing hide and seek...
you inspired me through primary school, through high school, and ever since...

i have always been lazy to study...but with the idea of you...who is so so so diligent...i tend to push myself through it...

just tonight i miss you...
just tonight i miss you...
just tonight i miss you...

i miss you dear...my inspiration~

Saturday, September 12, 2015

there are so many things...

there are so many things going on...
there are so many people we dwell with...
there are so many moments occur without our consent....
how to stay focus? how stay true to your own goals?
when others come in and tell you theirs are what matter?
tired of priorities setting...tired of getting time in track and tired of listening to things you won't agree
but have to agree anyway...
there is no such things as alone...people evolve...world evolve and tend to include you...
you can't just wait for everything to stop moving then only you shall find your peace...
as Buddha said "peace come from within..." but seriously...why it's so hard to find one?

Wednesday, September 02, 2015

it's going to be hell of a sem

it's going to be hell of a sem...
since i have been confused even in my first week...
God...ease me through this...
i'm not capable of having less then it should be...
i have to get as high as possible..
help me through God....help me...

Thursday, August 13, 2015

i'm searching for an answer...but why it's so hard to find one...

i can't seem to get close to the answer...
i can't seem to see the answer...
i'm searching for it everywhere...
but nothing i found but disappointment...
God, guide me through....i need answer...and i need solutions...
so i can get out from this sorrow i dig into...get me out...please

i'm searching for an answer...but why it's so hard to find one...

i can't seem to get close to the answer...
i can't seem to see the answer...
i'm searching for it everywhere...
but nothing i found but disappointment...
God, guide me through....i need answer...and i need solutions...
so i can get out from this sorrow i dig into...get me out...please

Friday, July 24, 2015

encounter difficult people

have you ever encounter difficult people?
difficult here might means not on the same page with you?
and they kinda live in the very same book with you so you can't run but to face that page everyday...

so difficult and denial until i can't breathe to face them...

how can someone be so difficult to deal with?

so denial...denying every words you said even if it's true...

deny that we don't work out and insist on working it out just as a drama for people to watch...
when nobody's watching it then they tend to act normal and careless...

how can i follow the flow?

i don't know how...in front people i act like this so same goes at the back...i don't have two types of action...real and fake...i don't have that...i wish i have only one, by principle, REAL....

how can you pretend so well? deny so hard? and selfish so bad?

how can you be such person and still breathe free among of people?

and why the hell i'm seeing this and nobody else does?

and why must i take your action as a friendship when i know deep down it's faking and competitive?

God, give me some strength...give me some strength...please....


little wake up call for me as 3rd year to be

"Mediocre surgeons will see you and feel themselves wilting in your shadow. Do not shrink to console them. Do not look for friends here. You won't find them. None of these people have the capacity to understand you. They never will. If you're lucky, one day when you're old and shriveled like me, you will find a young doctor with little regards for anything but their crafts. And you will train them like i train you. Until then, read good book. You have greatness in you. Don't disappoint."
- Dr. Thomas -

This statement above is quoted from Grey Anatomy. How true his words are? You can never imagine. I find myself in the same place. Place where i care too much for those who don't deserve it. I cried for their bad grades, and all they cried for are their boyfriends. I care too much that i will hurt their egos if i say too much or know more until sometimes i hold back. I sometime being lazy because it seems okay to be lazy there. What have i done to myself? I, with no money background should try more and shall stop feeling bad for wanting more or want to achieve more. But instead, i feel ashamed of  my capabilities to want more. How can other people achieve so much and i'm nothing but ordinary? They say you will become what you associate with whole day, not more or less one day you will. And they say you have to choose to mix around those with high achievement if you want some too. I find that words assaulting and disrespectful, but somehow it's becoming truer and truer. None of those surrounding me is being supportive with my dreams, my passion or my achievement, they find it intimidating and competitive, which is good right? but it hurts when it comes from your own person. I shall not be lazy, i shall not hold back, i shall not feel bad anymore. I shall focus on the goal I've been having. And God, please give me strength. I need it. They say don't blame others for your own less achievement, but sometime, you just need people around you to be as diligent as possible so that you will be too, that applied to someone as lazy and demotivate like me. I need study buddies. Need those who are not offensive and supporting. Those who don't get jealous and trying to bring me down. Those who can bring me up. I need study buddies. Which i can't find one there. And it's really sad. I need to surround myself with hardworking people. I'm weak, so i need it. No offense. 

what have i been doing dwelling with feelings and daydreaming? what have i been doing listening to people dreams and forgetting mine? What have i been doing hiding behind the shadows of people who try their best using me around for their own good? What have i been doing after all these time thinking i can take a day off and be lazy? which i have been taking months off. why am i so lazy? and why is it okay to do so? why have i lost so may confidence and passion? where all of those gone? why i let people make me walk shorter and shorter when i should be walking tall? i'm a very humble person, and polite, and they mistaken it by suppressing me down and down. why am i being shy in the wrong places? where where where is my confidence? this is too much lost. too much too much to bear. i have to get up from this nightmare. where have i been? why am i so carried away by feelings and people? they don't even bother. they don't even care. they don't even try. why i even bother?

wake up sumy. you have to wake up and try harder for yourself. get what you want. stop lazy around and follow people. you have your own personality, your own discipline. why following people? why care so much to try less in relationship just because you worry you'll lose them? they are not yours in the first place. they don't even try to be yours. they make it so clear don't you see?
 why you even try to even think about it? stop searching for true friends, they don't exist. not for you.

try harder for yourself. you can. achieve it. you're in a place that allow you to achieve it. use it. use it well. do it well.

don't have to be better than anyone, just achieve what you want. try to get there. please. stop losing track. stop it. stop being so emotional and brainless.

Thursday, July 23, 2015

if only i can escape

i wanna escape from certain kind of people / living...
i wanna escape without hurting anyone or myself...
but how is that possible?
i'm sick of it...
i'm so sick of it...
so so soooo sooooo soooo sick of it...
God, how do i escape it?

Thursday, July 16, 2015

feel like infecting people

"I feel like one of those people who's so freaking miserable and can't be around normal people,
like i'll infect the happy people, like i'm some miserable, diseased, dirty ex-mistress." -Grey.M-

well that feeling...is so true!

Monday, July 13, 2015

doubt

there is this one person that i can't seem to find reason to trust...
i can't find any reason at all to trust...
at all...

If you can trust someone, you wouldn't have doubt in the first place right? means, doubt came with reason right? even if you don't know what the reason is? so, i can't trust you...means there is reason to it right? just saying~

why why why so hard to trust you? why?

Friday, July 10, 2015

can't fight fate

nothing can defeat FATE...
if it's written that way, then that's all it is...
nothing can defeat it...
not even if you want it hard enough, or you deserve it, or you work hard for it...

we don't know what have we done in the past and what will come in future...
only FATE will lead everything into places...

if it's not meant, then it's not...
if it's meant to be then it will....

and something that's already fated that way, you can't change it...
no matter how much you hate it, want it or run away from it...
it will find you, and be the way it should be...

Thursday, July 09, 2015

weird thing...

weird thing bout women, everything about feelings and affection is a competition...

they see whom come first or after,....

they see are they being chose to be the first one or not...

they count every single words that people around them talked...is it offended or cruel in the feeling kinda way...

weird isn't it?

very very very weird...
everyone wanna be special and want to be the first without thinking its actually ok to step back and just be num second or not matter at all...

nope, no one figures that out...

everyone wanna be in the center of attention, everyone wanna be special, everyone want their wishes fulfilled...

haihhhh what a tiring world isn't it?

what a tiring one....

God, how to live without all these tiny little worries? How to live without stepping on someone else's toe? God, how to live and let everyone happy and get what they want?

Monday, July 06, 2015

Cliche

"Hate To See Your Heart Break"
Paramore

There is not a single word in the whole world
That could describe the hurt
The dullest knife just sawing back and forth
And ripping through the softest skin there ever was

How were you to know?
Oh, how were you to know?

And I, I hate to see your heart break
I hate to see your eyes get darker as they close
But I've been there before
And I, I hate to see your heart break
I hate to see your eyes get darker as they close
But I've been there before

Love happens all the time
To people who aren't kind
And heroes who are blind
Expecting perfect scripted movie scenes
Who wants an awkward silent mystery?

How were you to know?
Well, how were you to know-oh-oh?

And I, I hate to see your heart break
I hate to see your eyes get darker as they close
But I've been there before
And I, I hate to see your heart break
I hate to see your eyes get darker as they close
But I've been there before

For all the air that's in your lungs
For all the joy that is to come
For all the things that you're alive to feel
Just let the pain remind you hearts can heal

Oh, how were you to know? (How were you to know?)
Oh, how were you to know?

And I, I hate to see your heart break
I hate to see your eyes get darker as they close
But I've been there before
And I, I hate to see your heart break
I hate to see your eyes get darker as they close
But I've been there before

Sunday, July 05, 2015

easily awkward

i'm easily awkward...even to my close ones...
those who can make me feel totally comfortable and not awkward, that's the winners...

i just wanna see if we belong...
maybe its too soon to tell from before, but i already set the answer as no...and it still is till now...
what is there in the middle i don't know...
we just don't belong....
maybe that's the answer, we just don't belong...
as simple as that, and i can't force it...
only God knows everything...and only Him will allow things to happen...
if we don't belong, and not meant for each other then maybe i should just stop whatever i'm doing that i think we're belong...
it's sad...but its the truth...and i'm so sorry for both of us or at least for myself...
God..ease me through people God...ease me through...

i'm scared to go back home...

i don't know why i have this feeling that i'm scared to be at home...
at home..i'm so small...i can't earn, i can't give much and all i'm doing is just laze around using my mum'm money and kill time...
i'm scared i won't make it worth...
i wanna be worth...do something, anything, to show my family that i care for their sacrifices...
i want them to know that i know how much they're going through...
God, i wanna be good daughter and grand daughter...
i wanna be matter...
i wanna contribute...
if only i know how..

but then a voice inside my head;
"Go back sumy, they wanna see you..."
"Go back sumy, house chores is the least you could do"
"Go back sumy, accompany your mum through the nights"
"Go back sumy, just go back, and spend time with them"
"Go back, maybe it's you that need them more then they need you"
"Go back and Wai Phrak, because that's the one thing that always help you through bad times"
"Just go back, and fight the rumors, the talks, or whatever people are thinking out of you"
"Just go back and show people that you're still alive..."

I have no one back at home, just my mum and my grand ma and those puppies...
i have no best friend that so long never met, and missing to hell to meet...nope,
everyone have their own boyfriends and lives that i can't catch up with...
well, whose fault is that? yeah me of course...
i don't bother to keep in touch so who are there to welcome me back?

haihhhhh sadness to be at home is that one thing...
LONELY...

Sunday, June 28, 2015

how can women be so disgusting?

i'm a woman...
i see women around me, women around the world, women stories...
how can women be so disgusting?

define disgusting?
they can be so lost in emotions... 
they can be so lost in stupidity...
how can they be so lost?

i see most of women are so lost in relationships...
i don't know about guys because i'm not one of them...
so all i'm gonna say about is what i see...what i experience...
and women are not gonna like it when i put it this way...
don't worry gals...i'm one of you...

so, what was i saying? yes, how can women be so lost in relationships? in loves?

i see lots of women are so lost in it...when i say 'lost';
they doubt their own selves...
they doubt their own beauties...
they doubt their own personality...
they doubt their own capabilities...

why can't they see? real beauty, real personality, real capability?
Men are so lucky just to get any woman...all women are pretty, all women will do anything just to keep their men happy, all women are hopelessly cares and worries...yes dude, ALL WOMEN are the same...

So women, why are you so lost in it? why let men treat you as such you have nothing to be respected? why let men define if you're good or bad? maybe love does so? maybe i'm too lost to see it because i've never be in one? or have i been avoiding because i don't wanna get lost in it?

whatever it is...how can women be so lost in it? so insecure, so doubtful...
oh dears...you all have nothing to worry about...men are just so lucky just to have you...
'good enough' 'compatible' 'pretty enough' oh God...all of these words are overrated! 

are they good enough for you? are they treating you the way they should be treating you?

stop being so lost in it...stop being so disgusting...
my God...what will i face after i wrote this? will i face the same thing?
i don't want to...
i don't want to be that kind of women...
will i be the same?
i don't want to...
please...i don't want to be like that...
i don't want to be disgusting~

Monday, June 15, 2015

came across this song


Song For Zula 
by Phosphorescent

Some say love is a burning thing
That it makes a fiery ring
Oh but I know love as a fading thing
Just as fickle as a feather in a stream
See, honey, I saw love. You see, it came to me
It put its face up to my face so I could see
Yeah then I saw love disfigure me
Into something I am not recognizing

See, the cage, it called. I said, “Come on in”
I will not open myself up this way again
Nor lay my face to the soil, nor my teeth to the sand
I will not lay like this for days now upon end
You will not see me fall, nor see me struggle to stand
To be acknowledge by some touch from his gnarled hands
You see, the cage, it called. I said, “Come on in”
I will not open myself up this way again

You see, the moon is bright in that treetop night
I see the shadows that we cast in the cold, clean light
My feet are gold. My heart is white
And we race out on the desert plains all night
See, honey, I am not some broken thing
I do not lay here in the dark waiting for thee
No my heart is gold. My feet are light
And I am racing out on the desert plains all night

So some say love is a burning thing
That it makes a fiery ring
Oh but I know love as a caging thing
Just a killer come to call from some awful dream
O and all you folks, you come to see
You just stand there in the glass looking at me
But my heart is wild. And my bones are steam
And I could kill you with my bare hands if I was free






Saturday, June 06, 2015

have you ever walk down that memory lane?


that memory lane...
that time that i was so nervous, hopeful, tortured by wishes and omg so many more feelings that are impossible to list down one by one...

then here i am...nearly finishing my 2nd year here like i won't believe it's happening...

few more exams then i'm done with 2nd year...
but urghhh
MRP, MIED, KOSAN PAYMENT, UNPAD PAYMENT and bla bla bla...
gosh everything wraps up like wanna kill me alive...
even worst on my mum...
God, ease us through this God...i really wish i can finish years here and go back as a successful doctor...
i ask so much that sometime i ashamed of myself...
am i worth it?
will every penny my mum spent on me be worth it?
God...i'm really really really scareddddd 
:( 
help me...


Thursday, June 04, 2015

one of Malay song...


"Bila aku jatuh cinta
Kan ku sebut namamu
Kan ku tulis lagumu
Akan ku katakan kata-kata indah
Hanya untukmu

Bila aku jatuh cinta
Kan ku sebut namamu
Kan ku tulis lagumu
Akan ku katakan kata-kata indah

Bila aku jatuh cinta
Kan ku doakan kamu
Menyempurnakan aku
Akan ku buatkan semua yang terindah"

Tuesday, June 02, 2015

you know what's scary?

you know what's scary?

not the unseen love...
not the soulmate who never appear in your life...
not the rejection feeling that you get from your love ones...

but

it's the person who can't love...
it's the person who thinks she doesn't not meant to love or to be loved...
it's the person who trying her best to run away from it...and never think for a second that
she deserves some warms and loves from people...

that's scary...

because from that...she has been hurting people who have pure feeling for her...
because from that...she thinks she gonna ended up alone but lots of hands out there trying to hold
and walk with her...
she disappoints them all...

does she deserve those loves?
who on earth doesn't deserve love?
is love that scary?
is warm burning her up?

or is the cold after the warmth that make she scared?

because nothing stays...you know..nothing stays...

everything changes...

the person who said love you today might be gone tomorrow...
and what is this girl going to do when that happen?

maybe she needs to get over that thought...
that thought that she doesn't deserve any loves...or hurts...
everyone deserves to be loved and hurt...

what's a life without hurt?

dull isn't it?

maybe it's time to open up to love and hurt...
they come in package...no matter what you do...

maybe yeah...that's the word... OPEN UP

open up to people, to love, to warm and to hurt itself...

maybe that's what life is about...

to love

to be loved

to do mistake

and to be hurting...

accept it sumy...accept it...and take it...don't throw it away~

Sunday, May 31, 2015

compilation doa2 Amaaaa^^

DOA-DOA AMA:

-  Wanni Amma Thambun Pai Wat Jungkau,Pha Dork Mali'Pai Pucha Luang Pho Na Dam Kho Hai Che Tham Exam Hai Dai Caaahh Sathuukk Lork Naah

- Che Amma doakan Che buat yg terbaik dlm exam doa ini Amma panjangkan kepada kawan-kawan Che jugak

- tarik nafas n go tru one by oneee

- rakh a che caahhh

- che ama rakh che thisudd

- kho hai lork mi khuam suk mark markkk lek chork dee nai exam tmrw cahhh.
Amma uai phorn hai che ans all q dee cahhh

- kho hai lork mi khuam suk sumithra mark markkkk...

- sathuk che amma wai phrak kho hai che tham dai lork eiii

- chayok sumy all the of luck sathukk

- don't worry ama pray for a che thurk wan caah lork eiii

- ke my life surrounding by joy, she gave me strength to fight for the life tqvm happy mother's day

- a baby on ama lap now hsa turn to a big girl already she maaa...ama rakh che thisud cahh

- steady sumy, all the best...



what a breath takingggg
Sathukkkk

Saturday, May 30, 2015

remember

what makes you the happiest is the only thing that makes you sad the most....

Sunday, April 26, 2015

have you ever scared of what you talked?

i do...
it's haunting me...
whatever i talked...
i scared of what it might bring...
i scared of it's impact...
because nothing goes around doing nothing...
even air is needed to be inhaled...
even rubbish needed to be recycled...
what about words?
that coming out of us...
words that passed through our brain...
so it sure meant something...
because that's what measured our brain..
on how it works...
it's important...
very very important...
and meaningful...
yeah that's the word...meaningful..
everything is meaningful...

Thursday, April 16, 2015

i spent so much time worrying...

i spent too much time worrying about things i shouldn't be worrying about...

i spent so much time trying to walk in someone else's shoes that i forgot to tie mine...

i spent so much time thinking that people will be doing the same...but no..they're not...

i spent so much time thinking, tip toeing, and caring that i forgot how to live...

i won't do it anymore...will i ever?

i scared of myself that i can't trust myself to be normal...to do what normal people do...you know, not caring and stuff...
i'm such a naive...
and i feel stupid...
feel wasted and empty...

God, if i ever love myself like people do...
i should have gotten better life, better results and even meet better people...i guess~

Thursday, April 09, 2015

tomorrow

tomorrow i'm turning 24...and yet...i feel so hopeless and helpless...
haihhhhh

aging doesn't help here...
it's just minus all my chances...
maybe some...
lot's of scholarship will be unavailable and tons more i'm not qualified for...

i should be grateful...
i should...but it just hit me on what such a failure i've become...

just sad...
damn sad...

Sunday, April 05, 2015

searching for that person

so, think...who you gonna miss then...


WIZ KHALIFA
"See You Again"
(feat. Charlie Puth)

It's been a long day without you my friend
And I'll tell you all about it when I see you again
We've come a long way from where we began
Oh I'll tell you all about it when I see you again
When I see you again

Damn who knew all the planes we flew
Good things we've been through
That I'll be standing right here
Talking to you about another path I
Know we loved to hit the road and laugh
But something told me that it wouldn't last
Had to switch up look at things different see the bigger picture
Those were the days hard work forever pays now I see you in a better place

How could we not talk about family when family's all that we got?
Everything I went through you were standing there by my side
And now you gonna be with me for the last ride

It's been a long day without you my friend
And I'll tell you all about it when I see you again
We've come a long way from where we began
Oh I'll tell you all about it when I see you again
when I see you again

First you both go out your way
And the vibe is feeling strong and what's
Small turn to a friendship a friendship
Turn into a bond and that bond will never
Be broke and the love will never get lost
And when brotherhood come first then the line 
Will never be crossed established it on our own
When that line had to be drawn and that line is what
We reach so remember me when I'm gone

How could we not talk about family when family's all that we got?
Everything I went through you were standing there by my side
And now you gonna be with me for the last ride

So let the light guide your way hold every memory
As you go and every road you take will always lead you home

It's been a long day without you my friend
And I'll tell you all about it when I see you again
We've come a long way from where we began
Oh I'll tell you all about it when I see you again
When I see you again

Thursday, March 26, 2015

stop

so Buddha said; 
"If you try to fix others, have you tried fixing yourselves? it is hard?"
"so, even yourself is hard to fix, what about fixing others? isn't that meant it's quite impossible?"

so, whatever force outside that try their best to get your attention for anger, for revenge, for envy...
stop...
stop and think and stop that feeling within yourselves...
fix it from inside...
fix it bit by bit til you get over it...
stop within yourselves...
so let the peace comes from within...
don't search form outside...
you might think problems are always coming from the world...
but the real problem is always how you deal with it..so stop...what people are trying to do to provoke you, just stop...stop it within yourselves~

always think twice before you act, you know better...think why they do that thing they're doing...
then sometimes, it's them who need to be saved.

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

true happiness

true happiness is not exactly having giant house, tons of cars or big expensive breakfast...
true happiness is sometime simply means having someone who shares your sadness in your true sad...
someone you can talk to about your sadness for hours and not judging...
someone who understand and won't compare their lives to you...
someone who doesn't come up with impossible suggestions and just listens to what u have to say...
some kind words of supportive and caring...
some kind eyes and not happy wishing your doom...
some true loves, sincere and not pretending...
not pity but love...pity means your sad about it when u hear it...
love means you wanted to share that sadness...it's two different things...seriously...
and i'm asking too much here...because i know it's hard to find one...
and it's quite nearly impossible to search for...

everyone has their own sadness...
everyone has their own problems...
everyone has their own path to walk...
sometime it's just too wasting time to try to walk with other people problems when you have your own...
so, true loves or true happiness is sometime to find those who willingly to walk with you and your sadness even when they have theirs to bear...
the question is, are you yourselves willing to do so for other people if you wish other people to do that for you?
how willing are you?
how willing will you?
that is how much other people are willing for you too...
trust me...

if you're not willing, then don't blame people for their not willingness....
because we are human, and we are the same...
we runs the same code of DNA...so we are not far off different from each other, really...

stop wishing too much sumy, people are not saints...people are not God...
people are human just like you...so stop pining for impossibles~

Monday, March 23, 2015

Sunday, March 22, 2015

have u ever feel...empty?

have you ever feel empty? like literally empty on the inside?

i feel it...

i feel it now...

people are all around me...
chaos, works, study, stuffs...but still i feel empty...
like at the end of the day, i always find myself all by myself and don't have any good feelings or good friends or good person to keep me thinking at night...to keep me missing them at night...i don't have that...just empty...

this feeling sucks...
it made you wanna cry but you couldn't bring yourselves to do it...

empty...

Thursday, March 19, 2015

Do you know where your heart is?

"Say (All I Need)"
ONE REPUBLIC 

Do you know where your heart is?
Do you think you can find it?
Or did you trade it for something
Somewhere better just to have it?

Do you know where your love is?
Do you think that you lost it?
You felt it so strong, but
Nothing's turned out how you wanted

Well, bless my soul
You're a lonely soul
'Cause you won't let go
Of anything you hold

Well, all I need
Is the air I breathe
And a place to rest my head

Do you know what your fate is?
And are you trying to shake it?
You're doing your best dance,
Your best look
You're praying that you make it

Well, bless my soul
You're a lonely soul
'Cause you won't let go
Of anything you hold

Well, all I need
Is the air I breathe
And a place to rest my head

(say) all I need
Is the air I breathe
And a place to rest my head

Do you think you can find it?
Do you think you can find it?
Do you think you can find it?
Better than you had it
Do you think you can find it?
Do you think you can find it?
Do you think you can find it?
Yeah, better than you had it (better than you had it)

(say) all I need
Is the air I breathe
And a place to rest my head

(say) all I need
Is the air I breathe
And a place to rest my head

Do you know where the end is?
Do you think you can see it?
Well, until you get there
Go on, go ahead and scream it
Just say...

Thursday, March 12, 2015

i'm letting go

i'm not gonna pretend anymore...i'm letting go~

from now on...i'm not gonna try to like her anymore, from now on i'm not gonna be worried or thinking or planning anything for her anymore...

i'm letting her go...

i  can see clearly now that it doesn't matter no matter how much i try to...
i'm never gonna like her, even before, now or in future....
i'm gonna forget...forget that i used to care...

i'm not gonna try anymore....

that's it...

no more trying to like or 'jaga hati' or whatever...

no more...i'm gonna be me...who love myself and let go~

Monday, March 09, 2015

God give me strength....

God, give me strength to go through those i have to face everyday...

God, give me strength to go through my hatred....

God, give me strength to go through those who works with prides and egoist...

God, hear me out and stay with me....

i don't know how much i can endure this hatred....i don't want it in my heart...i hate this feeling

take it away God...and let me be a free soul...free from hatred, belongs and conceit....

protect me, guide me, stay with me....

Sunday, March 08, 2015

tired

i'm too tired...

my lucks seem to run out these days...

i go tutorial...there is no tutor...
my things keep go missing...
kosan's internet doesn't seem to be consistent...
exam is coming but i don't even have study group...
everyone seems to do their own stuff....

i can imagine how my result would be...and i really don't like it...

God...give me  some strength to go through this...sathukkkk

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

my favorite

“The important thing is that you work for yourself, not for my approval. 
If you feel that doing well matters to you
you become your most loyal fan as well as your most severe critic.”

-Judith Rodin, PhD, president of the Rockefeller Foundation on the RockBlog-

superb advices

On Confrontation

When I was maybe six, I saw 
a photograph in a magazine of a young woman holding a bouquet of flowers up to a police officer who was pointing a gun at her—it was a 1970s 
image from an antiwar protest. Terribly intrigued by the contradiction 
depicted in that photo, I asked my mother about it. She explained that the woman was trying to win over 
the officer with kindness. Her exact words: “Zap them back with super love.” I’ve thought of that phrase many times over the years in trying moments. I’ve never regretted zapping anyone back with super love.

Cheryl Strayed, 
author of Wild, Tiny Beautiful 
Things, and Torch, in Library Journal



On Winning

“You don’t want to win the argument. You want to get your way.” It was from the late Rae Wolf McKenna, 
my first mother-in-law. I have found it popping into my head in many tense situations over the years, to great effect.

Paul Steiger, former managing editor of 
The Wall Street Journal



On Caring

Twenty-four years ago, when I quit drinking, an old-timer in recovery asked, “How are you treating the world today, Paulie?” I responded, “Don’t you mean ‘How’s the world treating me?’ ” He answered quickly. “No, I mean exactly what I said. No matter how the world is treating you, if you are caring, loving, and kind in the way you treat the world, your journey will be easier.”

Paul Williams, award–winning composer, coauthor of 
Gratitude & Trust words of wisdom balloonsYasu+Junko for Reader’s DIgest


On Uncertainty

My parents and I were living in a 
refugee settlement in Vienna after we left the former Soviet Union. Everything was uncertain, scary, and pretty terrible. This didn’t stop my dad from announcing one day that we were 
going to visit the opera house in 
Vienna. I thought playing tourists 
was ridiculous—we had no money, no citizenship, and no home. “We don’t know if we’ll ever be back here again,” my dad said. “Life is short. It’s stupid to sit here and wallow in our troubles.” Now I realize… he’s right.

Nataly Kogan, 
cofounder and CEO of Happier, Inc.



On Assumptions

I grew up in the northern Himalayan region of Kashmir. My grandfather would take all his grandkids for walks in his apple orchards, where he would pick apples that had been tasted by a bird and carve off the 
opposite side to give to us. I once asked, “Why would you not offer the ripe-looking apple untouched by the bird?” I felt he was such a miser that he wanted to sell the “good” apples instead of feed them to his grandkids. He rolled his hand over my head 
affectionately. “The bird would only eat one that is sweet, so I pick the best for you,” he said. “Never assume; always ask.” This is my mantra in my personal and professional life.

Khurshid A. Guru, MD, 
director of robotic surgery at Roswell Park Cancer Institute in Buffalo, New York steven speilbergIda Mae Astute/Getty Images




On Listening

From a very young age, my parents taught me the most important 
lesson of my whole life: Listen to 
everybody before you make up your own mind. When you listen, you learn. You absorb like a sponge. Your life becomes so much better than when you are just trying to be listened to all the time.

Steven Spielberg, 
film director and producer, 
in Good Housekeeping



On Burnout

“You can always do more. But if you do too much, they won’t get your best.” My college roommate’s father, 
a third-grade teacher, told me this during my first year of teaching. I was staying late every night and getting burned out. He helped me accept that I couldn’t chase down every lesson idea or write sentences of explanation for each error. It gave me the freedom to focus on interaction with kids. That’s made all the difference.

Sean McComb, 
2014 National Teacher of the Year



On Time Management

I once interviewed a woman named 
Theresa Daytner, who owns a construction company and has six kids, including twins. She told me that 
she never tells herself, “I don’t have time.” Instead she says, “It’s not a 
priority.” I could say I don’t have time to make handmade valentines for all my children’s classmates, but if you offered me $100,000, I’d do it quickly. Since that’s not going to happen, I can acknowledge that this is a matter of priority, not time.

Laura Vanderkam, 
author of Mosaic (2015) and 168 Hours seth godinBloomberg/Getty Images



On Connecting

Years ago, I shared the stage with my hero Zig Ziglar. Before we went on (there were 20,000 people in the crowd, and I was in way over my head), I asked, “How do you work with people who aren’t connected? How do you get through to those who don’t really want to be there?” What he said changed the way I do everything: “Instead of distracting yourself by focusing on folks who are unwilling and unhappy, give your energy to people who came to hear what you had to say.” What I learned: Shun nonbelievers. Ignore critics. 
Do your best for people who want 
to dance with you.

Seth Godin, bestselling author and public speaker



On Tenacity

On a wicker chair in a corner of my Cape Cod office is a profile I wrote about a former Phoenix Superior Court judge, who mentored me in the late ’70s in the art of court 
reporting. As she rose through the judicial ranks, the judge instructed me to keep asking questions. Persevere, she counseled me. “Keep at it until you get the answers!” Little did I know how this training would sustain me in times of great challenge. Today, as I fight the demons of early-onset Alzheimer’s disease, I still 
follow the sage advice of my mentor, Sandra Day O’Connor, who became the first woman justice of the U.S. Supreme Court. Justice O’Connor—whose husband, John, died from 
Alzheimer’s after battling the disease for nearly two decades—has left me an indelible memory.

Greg O’Brien, journalist and author of 
On Pluto: Inside the Mind of Alzheimer’s words of wisdom balloonsYasu+Junko for Reader’s Digest



On being told “no”

I wasn’t diagnosed with dyslexia until my mid-30s. Long days and nights 
in the library in college produced a collection of C’s. Twelve of 13 medical schools rejected me. I was told that 
I was the least talented person in 
my residency and advised not to go into cardiac surgery. Time and again, I was told, “Don’t do it.” But sometimes the best advice is that which you don’t take. Instead of listening to people who told me to quit, I heeded the quote that sits on a small placard on my desk: “What can be conceived can be created.” I discovered only 
recently that it was from a 1980s-era car advertisement. That’s OK, though, because it reminds me that dreams should be lofty.

Toby Cosgrove, MD, CEO of Cleveland Clinic



On Old Friends

One night I called my longtime friend Lydia to escape from mountains of paperwork and errands. She said, “Don’t you remember what you always used to say? ‘When I die, I don’t want people standing around my grave saying, “Ohhh, she kept a perfect house.” You wanted them to say, “Wow, she was a Woman of the World.”’” I didn’t remember that until my friend reminded me. I was struck by how relationships connect us to 
a part of ourselves we’ve long forgotten. They remind us who we really are, rather than the person that years of responsibilities have us thinking we should be.

Mary C. Bounds, journalist and author of 
A Light Shines in Harlem jeff dunhamMike Windle/Getty Images



On Timing

When I graduated high school in 1980, I set a goal to be on Johnny Carson’s The Tonight Show within ten years. Through early 1990, I auditioned eight times and was turned away at each. Only after my ninth turn—two months before my tenth high school reunion—did I appear on Carson for the first time. During those years, Jim McCawley, Carson’s talent booker, kept saying something that was incredibly frustrating, but which I later would fully appreciate: “When performing for Johnny 
Carson, it’s better to be five years late than one day early.” It’s not being at the right place at the right time but rather about being prepared when the time arrives.

Jeff Dunham, ventriloquist and stand-up comedian



On Pain

“Pretending and ignoring are two different things.” I was 15 when I heard this, checked in to a stress center after swallowing a potentially lethal dose of sleeping pills. I’d told my best friend I was born HIV positive. Classmates called me names and left mean notes on my locker. I was told to ignore my bullies, which I’d done. But as one of the center’s counselors explained, sometimes you think you’re ignoring hurtful behavior when you’re just pretending.
“Were you hurt, Paige?” the 
counselor asked. Yes. I’d been hurt again and again. It was terrifying to admit; would acknowledging that mean my bullies had won? No. It 
allowed me to move on. Admitting 
I was hurt was the only thing that freed me from the pain.

Paige Rawl, HIV/AIDS and antibullying activist 
and author of Positive


On Loving 

I met one woman in Georgia who has been married to her husband for over 60 years. After being asked for her best relationship advice, she paused and then said, “Don’t be afraid to be the one who loves the most.”

Nate Bagley, 
creator of The Loveumentary, a study of the 100-plus greatest love stories in America, on businessinsider.com



On Expertise 

Several years ago, I was at a lecture by a brilliant speaker, Nido Qubein, who said, “If you’re in the presence of a true expert, you will understand everything they say. If you don’t 
understand what someone is saying, they are not an expert.” Often when we don’t understand what someone who is claiming to be an expert is saying, we tend to blame ourselves. Now my filters are simple. I cut 
people off if they don’t make sense.

Julie Morgenstern,
 professional organizer judith rodinAndrew H. Walker/Getty Images



On Motivation 

My mother and I were riding a 
trolley on a Saturday morning in West Philadelphia. I told her how much my first-grade teacher Miss Invernessy loved me, boasting that I was the teacher’s pet. I didn’t know that Miss Invernessy’s own mother was riding behind us. She heard 
everything. On Monday, Miss 
Invernessy kept me after class. After she told me, to my total humiliation, what her mother had overheard, I expected her to scold me for my hubris. She said, “The important thing is that you work for yourself, not for my approval. If you feel that doing well matters to you, you become your most loyal fan as well as your most severe critic.”

Judith Rodin, PhD, president of the Rockefeller Foundation on the RockBlog, rockefellerfoundation.org



On Your Circle 

“You’re the average of the five people you associate with the most.” A 
wrestling coach told this to me in high school. I’ve never forgotten it.

Tim Ferriss, author of The 4-Hour Workweek, on businessinsider.com dr. philJason LaVeris/Getty Images



On Grit 

My seventh-grade football team had just been soundly trounced. Our 
opponent was a bunch of ragtag kids from an Oklahoma City Salvation Army shelter. Their helmets didn’t match. Some wore jeans. The kid across from me had put his number on his shirt in masking tape. But when we snapped the ball, that kid 
hit me so hard, my left shoulder still hurts when it rains. After the game, my dad told me, “Boy, you just got 
a lesson in the power of desire. The 
difference between winners and 
losers is that winners do things that losers just don’t want to do.” If I want something bad enough, I better be willing to work however hard is 
required. If not, a boy with a taped-on number might take it away.

Phil McGraw, PhD, host of the television show Dr. Phil



On Raising Children 

Hours after our first child was born, 
a nun at the hospital handed my 
husband a typed poem: “Be careful where you go, young man, Be careful what you do. Two little eyes are watching you now— Two little feet will be following you.” It’s easy to overlook that those 
little eyes soak up things you might not be aware you’re transmitting. Like how family members treat 
one another. How often please 
and thank you punctuate the day. Whether you come to a full stop at 
a stop sign. The kids might look oblivious, but they’re watching.

Paula Spencer, journalist and author of Momfidence!,
 in Woman’s Day



On fun 

I had three children while I was earning my PhD at Harvard. When I met with a therapist, one of the first things she asked was, “When was the last time you read a book for fun?” That day, schlepping my preschoolers through the grocery store, I picked up a copy of Jurassic Park.  I read all night. That question 
became a pivotal part of my career as a coach and self-help author. 
Inject fun into any joyless portion of your life. Everything can change.

Martha Beck, PHD, sociologist, life coach, and author



On contributing 

My no-nonsense mother used to 
say, “Make yourself useful.” It referred to clearing the table or taking out 
the trash. But as my ability to 
be useful expanded, so did the 
opportunities. Add something to 
a meeting, a party, or a project. 
Being useful is so widely applicable and enormously satisfying.

Kelly Corrigan, 
author of Glitter & Glue and 
The Middle Place